For a long time, getting to sleep was less about tiredness and more about what my mind chose to do when the lights went out. Thoughts would arrive uninvited — sometimes anxious ones, sometimes creative ones. Ideas, phrases, connections. Perfectly reasonable thoughts, just turning up at the wrong time.
What I needed was not silence, but less space for those thoughts.
The basic method
The core of the strategy is simple.
I begin at 1000 and slowly subtract 3 each time: 1000, 997, 994, 991, and so on.
The purpose of this strategy is simple: to reduce cognitive load and anxiety by making emails easier to recognise, defer, and return to later — without relying on memory.
In my earlier post, The Email Beast , I described how email can quietly become overwhelming. Messages arrive faster than they can be dealt with, important ones get lost in the noise, and under fatigue it’s hard to trust memory or sequencing.
This strategy is about making email kinder to deal with.
I think of labels as signposts, not filing cabinets. I’m not describing the email in detail; I’m marking what kind of attention it needs from me, later on. In that sense, I’m labelling for my future attention, not for neatness.
Because of that, the labels need to be simple. They rarely change. Most importantly, they still make sense when energy is low. They don’t demand fine judgement or extra decision-making at the very moment when that’s hardest.
Here’s an example of a small, stable label set:
Follow-up — requires action from me
Waiting — I’m expecting something back
Reference — useful later, not urgent
Done — handled, but worth keeping
The aim here is not a tidy inbox. It’s being able to recognise what needs attention without rereading everything.
One quiet benefit of this approach is that the built-in read/unread indicator — with its foreboding unread count — becomes much less important. For me, the Follow-up label takes over that role. It’s subtle, but it makes email feel less accusatory.
Labelling really comes into its own when combined with filtering, both automatic (on arrival) and manual within your email client. I’ll describe that side of things in a future post.
The screenshot below shows a simplified selection from my own inbox. Sharp-eyed readers will notice that my real-world labels don’t yet fully match the tidy scheme above. That’s deliberate honesty. My existing setup grew over time and became unwieldy, and I’m in the process of simplifying it. I may tell the full, nerdy back-story another day.
One final point matters more than any of the above:
Labelling on first reading helps, even if you do nothing else
Labelling is a form of progress
It is perfectly acceptable to label an email and close it
People often think fatigue is just another form of tiredness, but my experience has shown me how different they are. Tiredness is the ordinary, end-of-the-day feeling that settles after a period of effort and usually disappears with a good rest. Fatigue, on the other hand, has been a long-standing companion since my brain tumour treatment in 2008 and again after my stroke. My brain now works much harder behind the scenes to do everyday things — concentrating, navigating, seeing — and that hidden workload drains my energy far more sharply than seems obvious from the outside. Sleep doesn’t always put things right. Fatigue can arrive suddenly, linger stubbornly, and needs managing rather than simply ‘pushing through’. It’s not about attitude; it’s the reality of a brain that’s had to rebuild itself twice.
The Brainstrust charity does a great job on explaining fatigue for people with brain tumours here…
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